1. BUILD CONFIDENCE
Confidence stays on the inside and builds from there.
So whenever you want to accomplish something, picture yourself
already there. See yourself successful, make it real in your mind.
Close your eyes and fill in all the details--how it would feel, how
you would behave, how others would behave in response. Then
put what you see into action. As you think, so you are.
2. REACH OUT TO OTHERS
Say nice things to other people. Make a list of the
things you would like and appreciate in others. Lend a helping
hand when you can. By helping others, we feel more in control
of our own lives.
3. AVOID PERFECTIONISM
Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from
accomplishing your goals.
4. TAKE CARE OF YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
Your physical appearance is a critical factor
in your self-esteem. Resist the urge to get sloppy
on days when you feel bad. In fact, those are the days
when you should take extra care to look your best.
5. GET IN TOUCH WITH YOUR OWN CREATIVE ENERGY
Get regular exercise; when you can use your body effectively,
you feel more in control. Listen to music, commune with
nature, meditate. As you do these things, let thoughts come
and go. Daydream and center yourself. What were your passions
as a child? What do you fantasize about now?
6. RESPECT YOURSELF
List 50 reasons why you can respect yourself. If you get stuck,
think of people who admire you or have admired you, and write
down what they would say about you.
7. LOOK FOR A SILVER LINING
When you're going through tough times, find a strength
or piece of knowledge (knowledge is power, you know)
that you would not otherwise have were it not this particular trauma.
8. ACT IN ACCORDANCE WITH YOUR OWN VALUES
Sometimes values conflict. In that case, practice role playing
with a friend and explore the various consequences of each action.
Then choose what feels best for you.
9. BE GOOD TO YOURSELF ON A DAILY BASIS
Do something that makes you feel good--
something that's just for you--every day.
10. CHALLENGE YOURSELF
Take a course. Travel to a new place--it's easier to try
out new facets of your personality when you are away from the
familiar. As you meet new challenges, you gain new confidence
and enhance your sense of accomplishment.
11. PRACTICE OPTIMISM
Dispute your pessimistic beliefs. Think of misfortunes
as temporary and specific instead of permanent and general. For example,
"All managers are jerks" is permanent and pervasive, a view that can lead
to feeling hopeless about a particular problem you've encountered.
"He was in a bad mood this morning" is an explanation that takes the
temporary/specific viewpoint. It allows hope for improvement.
12. DON'T TAKE THINGS SO PERSONALLY
When somebody behaves in a manner that you find rude or abrasive,
that tells you something about that person and how he or she is feeling
at the moment. Try to see the pain or fear the other person is experiencing
and tackle it from that perspective.
13. DON'T TAKE THINGS SO SERIOUSLY
See the humorous side of life's everyday calamities. When you can
see both the serious and humorous side of a given situation, your
perspective and your approach will be more balanced. So lighten up.
You'll bounce back from disappointments and embarrassing moments
more quickly, and more people will like you better, too.
Practice these positive measures to reinforce your own belief in your
self worth and increase your self-esteem. Then you'll have the master
key to you own success. ~Unknown~